How Do I Change Myself?

I asked my boyfriend the other day when he called me and I suddenly wanted to know if he could tell me things I need to change so I have better luck in relationships with men...but he told me not to change anything so I didn't find out what needs changed for us to succeed in our relationship. Perhaps it's slowing down and not being so impatient? I do know my energy gets on his nerves because I start talking so fast and get all excited telling him about something that happened. He always has to tell me to stop, breathe, and slow down haha!! How do I change myself?

My Answer: Thank you for opening up to me about who you are and reaching out on such a deep level but that is exactly why I can say with absolute conviction that your Soul chose him for you in this period of your classroom because what you stress and worry about that you think is in you is exactly what is in him.

What you feel and sense that you are not good enough and that you should change is what he struggles with too. Hence being a mirror for each other.

When you stand in front of a mirror and you want to see a different image in that mirror you can't take a marker and draw a different image on the mirror because that will not change what is your current reality, (your current image). It will just distort the image you see as it will become more muddled. Which means you can't change the outcome or the physical form from the outside.

Your current reality is your perception, your thoughts, and attitudes of your experiences so far as a human doer. All your past pains, joys, and thoughts is what created your current reality in form. So if you want to change what the Universe sends you which match exactly what you think about yourself then change the thoughts of how you see yourself.

If you feel you are not good enough and you should change, then the Universe will send you someone who thinks and do the same until you can see it's all in within you. So I agree with your boyfriend, don't change you from the outside by thinking I should talk less or slower.

Meaning, if he tells you, or even I tell you. "Okay change how you talk and change how you eat and dress and "do" things..." That is muddling your reality because you remain in unrest from deep inside yourself while you change all the things others tell you to change because you asked, all on the outside. That is being a human DO-er.

No, accept and love yourself for who you are right now with all the fast talk, etc., (current image) and begin to pay attention to every single thought you have every second of your day. Look closely at each thought you have and begin to recognize how truly unkind you are to yourself with your own thought patterns. Then begin to give yourself the opposite of each thought. A good start is to stop saying the word, "I am sorry."

"I am" are the two most powerful statements you have as a human BEing because you then begin to BE for YOURSELF and not DO for others.

Begin to see the love and light you already are and the Universe will match your frequency with exactly what you think and send you that man you would never have to change anything for because he will BE there too. Take each day at a time. Begin a love affair with yourself now. Fall in love with YOU. Become a human BE-ing... Not a human Do-er to please others!