Being The Victim.

Someone asked me how to get out of the Victim mode?

The victim mode is very similar to committing suicide. When you commit suicide or decide to go that route it’s because of no self-love, period.

If you love yourself enough, you will not want to hurt yourself, let alone those you leave behind. Society never taught us how to love ourselves. Rather, you have to give to others first. Or, give the bigger cookie to the other person rather than take it for yourself.

If you love yourself, you wouldn’t mind giving the bigger cookie to someone else but if you don’t, you feel resentment in always giving to others first. Then the act in “damned if you do and damned if you don’t” becoming a selfish act. The same with suicide.

If you commit suicide, you transfer all the pain to your loved ones staying behind. That’s building karma because the pain and suffering continue. It doesn’t stop until SELF-love.

The same with being the victim. To be the victim, your strongest belief is someone did something TO you and not FOR you.

When you learn to love yourself first, it’s a different love. It’s a love with no conditions attached to it. Here, I’m not talking about where you love others first, and so much, that all you do is give, and give, and give, and they take, and take, and take, and all that’s left is resentment. Or, where you take all the best cookies first and screw the rest.

I’m talking about where your love for yourself is bigger than those you love outside of you because you made sure you filled your own cup and when it overflows, it’s easy and enough for everyone. If you truly love yourself, you will not want to hurt yourself or allow anyone else to hurt you. You will not stand for it. You will respect yourself too much. You begin to realize all that happens around you, and TO you, happens FOR you.

Test how you love yourself. When you wake up and look in the mirror to brush your teeth, look deep into your own eyes, and FEEL the love for SELF. You will most likely look away feeling embarrassed thinking this is stupid. Or, you might start to laugh or even start to cry. This will be your first step to SELF-love. Start telling yourself how much you love YOU!

If we begin to love ourselves the same way we love others, our world will change from those wanting to kill themselves to those loving themselves.

From those thinking others owe them. Those resenting, judging, and blaming others for their own pain, allowed most of what happened because there was no SELF-love.

Think about it. Seriously think about this. If whatever happened in your life was not your fault, then it happened FOR you and not TO you.

Find that reason why, and most of all, start loving yourself exactly the same way you love all those others outside of YOU. Because in the end, the only one who can ever hurt you will be you. You will never give your power to someone else ever again to hurt you.

That is SELF-love.